Be Upstanding:
Taking Action to Prevent Sexual Harassment and Violence
For girls to reach their full potential, they must be safe. Sexual harassment and violence is an epidemic that starts young.
About 7 in 10 girls experience sexual harassment at some point in high school.
About 1 in 4 girls will experience sexual violence before she turns 18.
What is a Bystander?
A bystander is someone who witnesses problematic language or behavior between people, either in person or online, and is not directly involved. A bystander can choose to do nothing or do something when they witness something concerning.
What is an Upstander?
An upstander is someone who witnesses problematic language or behavior between people, either in person or online, and decides to do something about it. An upstander is a bystander who has chosen to do something. Sometimes the term “active bystander” is used to describe an upstander.
How can Bystanders Become Upstanders?
In order for a bystander to become an upstander, they need to first identify problematic language or behavior and then decide to do something about it. Often, this is as simple as listening to their “gut” instinct and noticing when something just doesn’t feel right. If a person is exerting power or control over another person in some way, is pressuring someone to do something they may not be comfortable with, or is saying things about a person online or in person that is unwelcome or inappropriate, those may be opportunities for an upstander to step up and help shift the course of the situation. In some cases, there isn’t a threat of immediate violence, but the actions are meant to degrade or disempower an individual or group. When we intervene in these situations, we can help disrupt harmful attitudes and maybe even prevent sexual violence.
What can an Upstander do when they notice a concern and decide to do something about it?
There are many options for intervening in a situation where there is a potential for harm, and they do not all involve direct confrontation. Every situation is different and may call for a different response. The Rape Abuse and Incest National Network offers a model for those who choose to be upstanders which includes 4 tactics:
- Create a distraction.
- Ask directly.
- Refer to authority.
- Enlist others.
Does talking about being an Upstander put the onus on girls to prevent violence?
We all can be part of creating a community where girls and all young people are safe, respected, and valued. While we want all girls to feel empowered to intervene when they see problematic language and behavior, we also want them to know that they should not feel unduly responsible for protecting their peers, especially if violence does occur. The ultimate responsibility to prevent violence among youth rests on those initiating the act and on adults.
To Learn more about what Girls Inc. of Orange County does to inspire all girls to be Strong (healthy and safe), Smart (educated), and Bold (confident) visit www.girlsinc-oc.org.
